Happy New Year

I have no choice but to start this year out with full and complete trust in God. I have some big life changes coming and frankly it’s terrifying.

I must relinquish control and for those of you that know me, may know I’m the textbook definition of a complete control freak, those of you who are just getting to know me, well just take our word for it!  It’s easier said than done to put my whole life in his hands.

How many times do we tell loved ones and friends going through stuff to give it to God and trust in his plan for their life? It’s easy to preach it and shoot, it's even easy to believe that God will help them and that his plan for their life is perfect. It’s not so easy believing it in our own life though.

So how do we grow in faith this way? How do we believe with our whole heart and mind he is in complete control of everything including us and our lives? How do we really accept that his plan for us is perfect and to not harm us, but give us hope and a future?

Well first we can go straight to scripture for guidance. Mark 12:30-31 states that “You shall Love the Lord God with all your heart, all your soul, your entire mind, and all your strength.” So, we can start there.  Just start to love God with everything, not with a little with ALL. Build a relationship with him, tell him your worries and your fears and share with him your needs and desires, he longs to have a relationship with us! We were created just for that purpose.   Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understandings, in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”  Try to trust, make it a practice every day to say, “Jesus I trust in you, help me to fully trust in you.” Tell him why you’re scared to trust, for me I must be honest and admit to him that I have trouble submitting to him (or anyone for that matter) because I like to be in control, it’s what makes me feel stable and safe. I have just started to ask him to help me with this, to give me a submissive and trusting heart towards him.

Lastly, I have read this scripture until I can memorize it.  Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper you, and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future”.  This verse may be hard to believe at first but the more you meditate on it the more it fills your heart. I’ve also come to realize that his plans may look way different than mine, and they may not be in my time, but in his. I may not feel currently that his plans are helping me prosper and they may not feel very hopeful now, however I must remember that his plans are always perfect, and they are always good for those who are called according to his plan. Life is fleeting. I can try to control my whole world, but I am just hindering his perfect plan in my life. He is way better equipped to run my life than I am. He did however create me (with a plan in place), and you, and everything in this world.

Sometimes we just have no choice but to Give it to God and just see what he can do! Today friends, if you're struggling in life like I am currently wondering what Gods got planned for your future, I pray you go to him and ask him for strength to believe in his plan and to help you to trust him fully, with ALL your heart!  Be blessed today…. “Be still and know that I am God” Psalm 46:10

 Xoxo,

 Your sister in Christ.

 Becky

Let whatever you do today be enough

Hi Friends!

I love to be positive; I typically view myself as a pretty positive person, I like to write positive encouraging words, but you know when you just have one of those days where life just bubbles up and boils over? The days you just can't help but feel sad, those days when everything is just too much? Yeah, I had one of those days today. AND it's OK, it's okay to have those days, just don't stay there!

Today marked one year since my dad entered hospice. He passed just 50 days later on January 23, 2024, one day after my 43rd birthday. I have promised y'all that I will be real and raw so hear it is! Today was HARD. If I could have stayed in bed all day I would of. I have a very dear friend Kara who gave me a little sign that sits on my nightstand lamp, it reads “Let whatever you do today be enough". It's my daily reminder to not put pressure on myself for the day.

I find myself reading my dad's bible just to be close to him. The bible was mailed to me weeks after he passed, and it held a sweet little surprise gift inside. A Christmas card addressed to me and written in and signed by my Dad. Christmas had come and went and was long gone by this time, but when I opened that cigarette-stained smelly bible that day I had the last words my dad would ever write or say to me, how special that was. It was a true gift from God that I needed at that exact time. It was closure. So crazy to think that he never got to mail it to me, but why? Did he completely forget he wrote it and left it in there, or did he know I would find it in there and left it on purpose?

I will never know the answer to that question; however, I do know that God saw me struggling; he saw my tears and knew my heart was broken. There inside Gods word, was healing for my soul that day. It had come in the form of a card that day from my earthly father, but Each Day I open the bible Gods word heals me, he feeds my soul and gives me the strength I need to endure. I take comfort in knowing I will never be abandoned or left alone by my heavenly father. 

So, when you have these days like I did today, just let today be enough. Go to Gods word it has power for healing, its alive and true. Let Jesus penetrate your soul and mind and heart. “Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning," Psalm 30:5. It is ok to not be ok on these sad days, life can be a lot, ,maybe you're grieving like me or maybe it's just a rough day on this earth navigating this crazy thing we call life.

Whatever it is, weep if you must, but dive into his word and his promises and I will promise you, Joy will come in the morning.......................                                                               

                                                                                                                                                                                                                         xoxo, 

                                                                                                                                                                                                    Remember the reason for the season, our Savior was born!!

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Cool sunglasses help to hide this Seasons Tears

Hello Ladies!!

Let’s start today with Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old, he will not depart from it”.

So, What Happens when you’ve done this, and your children grow up and your training ceases? It feels like this all happens overnight, doesn’t it?  It feels like one day you have laid your babies down for a nap and the next day they are taller than you, staying up later than you, (You’re the one who needs the naps now!!)   and you’re watching them drive out of the driveway. Midlife is hard ladies; it’s hard finding ourselves once our lives don’t revolve around training our children.

There is so much changing at this time in our lives. Let’s make it normal to talk about it! I think we all carry shame in our emotions and feelings during midlife. If I’m being honest EVERYTHING is changing, you look in the mirror at a woman you hardly recognize, between the new lines and gray hair, to the time spent losing yourself caring for everyone else’s needs, you hardly recognize the eyes staring back at you. I remember thinking I had forever before I was in this stage of life. Your relationships all change, your marriage may look different, your kids grow up and stop needing you as much, your parents age, pass away, and need you more. Friendships may change, some weather the storm, and some don’t. So many times, I have just wished I could slam on the brakes of life and scream OK enough changes! I have just needed things, something, anything to stay the same. Reminds me of the Fleetwood Mac Song, “Landslide”. Brings me to tears every time I hear it!  “Can I handle the seasons of my life? Well, I’ve been afraid of changing, because I’ve built my life around you, but time makes you bolder, even children get older, and I’m getting older too”. 

Ladies, this season in life is hard, I won’t even pretend it isn’t. I have felt it full force. I can’t sit here and promise any of you that it won’t hurt so badly you think you can’t make it another day. There will be days when you just are not sure you can deal with one more emotion.  What I can promise you is this, JESUS NEVER CHANGES! You can find yourself again through him! He had plans for you life! Jesus is my thing I cling to, my stability in an unstable world. Hebrews 13:8 says, “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, and today, and FOREVER”.  He will hold you up in this season, he will renew your mind and he will help you find your new purpose! Lean on him when you don’t have enough strength to hold yourself.

I just wanted to share this little secret with you all today! Ladies when life buckles you at the knees and the brakes of life just don’t work, remember Jesus is and ALWAYS will be with you and is never changing! Hallelujah for that! What a relief!

                                                                                           Love your sister in Christ,

                                                                                                      Becky

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Cool sunglasses help to hide this Seasons Tears ~ XOXO